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Over the next year I went on dates with about 10 different men, most of them one-offs. None, contrary to the myth, were married. They varied between chronic shyness and laughable arrogance. One walked off leaving me at a restaurant table because I would not drink. One sent me a nasty email after I abandoned the date because he was running so late.
Only two fell into the category of 'A Bit Scary' — the first telling me how he nursed his mother to her death as we walked along a very dark street and the second who was furious that my long hair had been cut into a bob since my profile photo had been taken. He accused me of being two different people. There was one Possible - a media lawyer, who was funny and clever.
We went on a few dates, which I really enjoyed, but it became clear that he was still recovering from a very painful divorce. Then there was Porsche Man, who I only spoke to on the phone. On his profile he sounded OK and his picture looked nice, but as we tried to arrange a time to meet up, he mentioned, at least twice, that he owned a Porsche and seemed upset that I was not more impressed.
It became clear that he was about to tell me I should count myself lucky, before I made my excuses… However, that same November evening I received a call from another man whose profile I had picked out one night as I sat in bed with tonsillitis, feeling feverish, seriously unattractive and impatient.
I could not be bothered chatting by email and simply sent my phone number saying, "If you are interested, call me. It tells you very little. I had also changed mine from one where I thought I looked my best - makeup, earrings and a black cocktail dress - to one taken by my cousin, in which I looked relaxed, friendly: His profile said he liked films. I love films and we had both listed On Golden Pond as one of our favourites. He was an engineer — a scientist to my arts background.
I was attracted to someone who could actually do stuff. He was a Kiwi but had lived in London for over 20 years. I had worked with loads of New Zealanders and loved their reluctance to take anyone or anything very seriously.
We both liked sailing and walking. He described himself through his friends' eyes - a humility I warmed to straight away.
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His photo showed a kind, strong face and loads of hair. He was divorced with two children in their late teens, who lived with their mother. The clarity and tact with which he covered this on his profile said a lot about him. I was not put off by his having been married before. It meant he was able to commit, and must have some idea about relationships with women. He was 12 years my senior but so was my father to my mother. Internet dater Cathy Comerford and her husband and son.
Cathy Comerford It wasn't all plain sailing. My first impression when I walked up to shake his hand on that bright November day, was that he had only one eye and had doctored his profile photo to disguise it.
As we stood discussing where to have coffee I wondered if I could love a one-eyed man. It was not until we were sitting down having lunch that I realised he had been squinting into the low winter sun. Oh did I say lunch?
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My strict rule on coffee-only for first dates was brushed aside in favour of a 'nice little Thai place', just around the corner. But I let it go. At the end of the afternoon I offered him a lift to the station, breaking my second rule of dating. I wouldn't say it was love at first sight, but something was definitely different.
On our third date we agreed to take down our profiles from the website. We bumped around for a bit through all the usual stuff of any new relationship. He had not chatted anyone up for a long time and it showed. I had not trusted anyone for a long time, and it showed. One of our first dates was a Christmas riverboat party thrown by the company where he worked.
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This combination may fight over simple things like where to eat, what to eat, what movie to watch since they both want to be always in control but all relationships have this kind of phase—only this combination would feel it more intense since they are not used to compromising. Middle children may be good with compromising, which is a good trait for a long-lasting relationships but they are so convenient to be with that being with a firstborn whose personality is usually controlling and dominating could be the cause of lack of self-improvement on the side of the middle child.
They might not be able to pursue their own dreams and goals in life because of their accommodating nature. Firstborn with Last Born The firstborn always wanting to be in control and the last born always seeking comfort and wanting to be taken care of is actually a win-win kind of relationship. Middle with Middle It is very natural for middle children to avoid confrontation, so in this kind of relationship the most common dilemma they would face is the matter of communicating with each other.
Their sensitive, compromising and accommodating nature makes it necessary for them to help each other develop the assertiveness and self-esteem that are needed for problem-solving. Youngest with Middle This is one hell of a couple. The middle plus the baby is a pretty good match. The combination of the middle—who is good at compromising and negotiating—and the social outgoing personality of the last born is the key to a good relationship. Only Children with Everyone Most people assume that the onlies have the same personality like the firstborns but they could actually develop two different kinds of personalities: Firstborn personalities and last born personalities.
Only children are most likely compatible with anyone as long as their partners could actually determine which of the two kinds of personality the only child possesses; then they could have a fruitful and well-adjusted relationship. More From Thought Catalog.