INFJ-INFP Relationships & Compatibility
I'd love to know what other INFJ's need (or just want) in a relationship, Or if you' re an INFP with anything to say about INFJ's, that's cool too. This section INFJ-INFP relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. May 2, For instance, an INFJ can date any personality type–even an ESTP, our INFPs and INFJs may just have one letter different in their acronyms.
Hence there is usually high level of harmony in the relationship.
Struggles Because both value some level of harmony, they may store up unhappy feelings inside and not share openly. They may avoid necessary conflict and disagreements; this is unhealthy in the long run for the quality of the relationship.
Because both may decisions with their personal values, they may sometimes overlook logical consequences of certain actions. Judging-Perceiving Joys Judgers enjoy making decisions for the relationship while Perceivers are happy just to let Judgers do so. Perceivers are happy to go with the flow according to the Judger's opinions, and they are generally okay with most casual decisions.INFJ Compatibility: INFJ and INFP Relationship
Because of their organized and scheduled nature, Judgers bring a stability and order to the otherwise messy and spontaneous lives of Perceivers - something that the Perceivers greatly appreciate. Perceivers, on the other hand, help Judgers to lighten up and see the fun side of life, bidding them to be less serious and uptight about everything - something that the Judgers know they need a reminder of.
Struggles However, Judgers find Perceivers to be too passive and casual with their indecisiveness - Sometimes this gets on the nerves of Judgers. Judgers find that Perceivers care little about household organization, something which they value highly.
Perceivers are likely to mess up the house because they don't like to keep things neat and orderly at least in the Judger's eyes - this of course drives Judgers crazy. Judgers may also find the Perceiver's lack of planning and scheduling to be irritating; they may try to organize the Perceiver's life as a result - this of course, is a mistake and something that Perceivers do not always appreciate. We want everyone to win. This makes the unavoidable conflict of being in a relationship difficult because it hurts us not only to be hurt but also to see our partners hurt and know that we are the culprits.
Yes, in relationships we should have fights, but we should use them to grow and improve. We need partners who will remain calm and not say things in anger that will be difficult for us to forget after the fight is over. Work towards resolving the conflict, not lashing out in anger or hurting the other person because it feels better momentarily. Physical touch INFPs love touching and being touched. Holding hands when walking down the street, giving long back rubs at the end of a long week, cuddling on the couch while watching a movie — we love all of it.
We need a partner who enjoys giving and receiving touch as well. Being our better half in social settings INFPs are not naturally social butterflies. We prefer quiet, meaningful get-togethers to big, loud parties. INFPs hold tightly to their ideals, and work hard at constantly seeing their mates up on that pedastal.
The frequent INFP result is a strongly affirming, proud and affectionate attitude towards their mates which stands the test of time. INFPs are not naturally interested in administrative matters such as bill-paying and house-cleaning, but they can be very good at performing these tasks when they must.
They can be really good money managers when they apply themselves. Sexually, the INFP is likely to be initially slow to open up to their mates.
Once their trust has been earned, the INFP will view sexual intimacy as an opportunity for expressing their deep-seated love and affection. More than the actual sexual act, they will value giving and receiving love and sweet words.
With their tendency to enjoy serving others, they may value their mates satisfaction above their own. One real problem area for the INFP is their intensive dislike of conflict and criticism. The INFP is quick to find a personal angle in any critical comment, whether or not anything personal was intended. They will tend to take any sort of criticism as a personal attack on their character, and will usually become irrational and emotional in such situations.
If the opinion is negative, the TJ's attitude may be threatening to the INFP, who will tend to respond emotionally to the negativity and be vaguely but emphatically convinced that the negativity is somehow the INFP's fault. For INFPs with extremely dominant Feeling preferences who have not developed their Intuitive sides sufficiently to gather good data for their decision making processes, their dislike of conflict and criticism can foretell doom and gloom for intimate relationships.
These INFPs will react with extreme emotional distress to conflict situations, and will not know what to do about it. Since they will have no basis for determining what action to take, they will do whatever they can to get rid of the conflict - which frequently means lashing out irrationally at others, or using guilt manipulation to get their mates to give them the positive support that they crave.
This kind of behavior does not bode well for healthy, long-term relationships. Individuals who recognize this tendency in themselves should work on their ability to take criticism objectively rather than personally. They should also try to remember that conflict situations are not always their fault, and they're definitely not the end of the world.
Conflict is a fact of life, and facing it and addressing it immediately avoids having to deal with it in the future, after it has become a much larger problem. INFPs are very aware of their own space, and the space of others.
They value their personal space, and the freedom to do their own thing. They will cherish the mate who sees the INFP for who they are, and respects their unique style and perspectives. The INFP is not likely to be overly jealous or possessive, and is likely to respect their mate's privacy and independence.